It's funny the way that little things can trigger old memories and feelings. Seeing a picture posted by a FB friend nearly made me start bawling (combination of sad memory and hormones). Oh, the feels, good and bad.
Here's the story: five years ago, I was with my family in Utah, getting ready for my sister's wedding. It was a lot of typical pre-wedding fun and craziness: getting pedicures all together, planning and buying supplies for a post-wedding brunch at my parents' house, rehearsal dinner and meeting the in-laws. So much fun, so much family togetherness. Gotta love it.
In the midst of this, I received a text message from my good friend and roommate, C. A good friend of hers, and friendly acquaintance of mine, was coming off of life support after a prolonged stay in the hospital following complications from H1N1 influenza. "Yay!" I thought, "Kitty's finally doing well enough to come off life support!"
It took me a while, reading what people were posting on FB, to discover that it was quite the opposite. She was not coming off of life support, she was being taken off of life support because it was time to let go. There was not much I could do to process it at the time, a death intruding into a bright and happy whirlwind of life and love and weddings.
I give a lot of credit to Kitty's friends and loved ones who were so much more deeply affected. They have been remembering her at the start of October every year since. It's the only way that anyone can achieve immortality in this world.